Eight little hands covered in drippy, droppy, messiness....in your house....with 15 ft of carpet between them and the bathroom. Add to this picture six more children engaged in various play, needing your attention at random moments. No. This is not a nightmare. This is reality. It is a reality that I didn't think I would ever be able to fully embrace.
To say that the thought of messy play made my skin crawl is an understatement. Not only was it sensory overload for me, but it was also patience overkill as well.
I was a family child care provider for 16 years. I provided care for up to 12 children at a time, ages 2-6. I provided this care with three co-workers: me, myself and I. I could not wrap my brain around the logistics of offering messy play opportunities when there was just me, myself and I to deal with the side effects of said messy play.
What side effects was I concerned about?
- The mess getting on my carpet.
- The mess getting on the children's clothing.
- The mess getting on me.
- The mess getting on a child who did not want the mess on them and the unknown behaviors such a catastrophe might spark.
- The inevitable cleaning up of the mess.
- The thought of what the little people in my care would be doing while me, myself and I cleaned up the messy play residue.
BUT then....I heard Lisa Murphy (aka: The Ooey Gooey Lady) speak. She said that messy play was ESSENTIAL to a child's development. She said that sensory experiences were something that needed to be offered every single day. (insert guilt trip...ha!!)
The only messy play I had been able to embrace at this point in my career was playdough, flubber (borax and glue...kind of like silly putty) and ON SPECIAL OCCASIONS ONLY: shaving cream and goop (cornstarch and water). "ON SPECIAL OCCASIONS ONLY" meaning only on days when I had an extreme amount of tolerance and patience. And I mean EXTREME.
On the Monday immediately after hearing Lisa's message, I offered messy to my littles. I went for the big dog on this first attempt at embracing play: shaving cream and glue. The sensation of this stuff was amazing.
My littles were beyond themselves with excitement. One child literally shook as she squeezed the concoction and loudly exclaimed "I LOVE YOU NITA!!!"
Ahhhh yes......Lisa was right. Children NEEDED messy play. They needed to explore with all of their senses the amazing textures of our world. They needed the freedom messy play supplies and the fenceless opportunity for imaginations to wander and soar.
It did not take long for story lines to form, the process of figuring out the social rules of messy play and amazing vocabulary to emerge through the child-led play.
I stood on the sidelines....prepared to catch that child who was done being messy and quickly and carefully whisk them away to the bathroom so I could wash them up and return them to their mess-free self. I will admit I was on edge. But I kept breathing. Deep....deeeeep....deeeeeeeeeeeep breaths. I kept reminding myself this is good...this is good...this is good.
Over the course of time, I learned to embrace messy play, and I learned some tips that I feel may be helpful to other messy-intolerant early childhood professionals out there.
1. Be present. Only set up for messy play on days that you have a clear mind. Do not do messy play on a day that you are waiting on an important phone call from the Dr. with scary test results. Do messy play on a day that your brain and body are fully present in the moment. (Let's be real...we know we need to be fully present, but there are days when that is a very challenging task. Do not attempt messy play on a day when presence of mind is challenging.)
2. Structure the environment. The better job you do at structuring the environment, the more free your little people can be with their play. Set them up for success. Structuring the environment lets children be in control of the experience. It lets them be the organizers of themselves and it sets them up for empowering success!
3. Give ownership to children. Find a way for your littles to be able to own the entire messy experience from start to finish...including the clean up part. Giving ownership of the entire process to young children is not only very empowering for them, but it also takes the stress of "how am I going to clean up all of these mess-covered children?????!!!!" from you...because, you are not going to clean up all of these mess-covered children when they are perfectly capable of doing it themselves.
|Cleaning up is empowering!
Children thrive on trust. They love to be trusted. This child was empowered through my trust and he loved getting to own the responsibility of cleaning the bucket we used for messy play on this particular day.
4. Do not force. All children, just as all adults, do not enjoy messy play. Do not force a child to "just touch it, I know you will like it" (please tell me I am not the only one who has done this!!). I have done that. It has back fired almost every single time. Allow children to explore as they are comfortable. TRUST THEM. Be patient and let the natural process of curiosity happen. Make sure to have tools available so the messy isn't as threatening, and give lots of time for a young child to learn to trust the messy opportunity.
|Freedom of Time
The freedom of time is of utmost importance for messy play. Children need time to warm up to the sensations of new messy play opportunities!
5. It's okay to claim it. It is okay for a child to hog the messy experience and declare that they will be there until pick up time. First of all, that's a huge pat on the back to you. You have offered an opportunity that this child clearly LOVES. Second of all, there are a lot of social lessons involved in that simple declaration of commitment: 1) The child declaring their loyalty to the messy play that day learns that you respect them. They also get an opportunity to be responsible and considerate when they remember to tell the next child that it is their turn (in the event that the messy-loving child over estimated how much they love the messy play and finish before pick up time) 2) the child that is waiting their turn gets an opportunity to practice patience, and the experience of disappointment and delay of gratification. It's a win/win for everyone.
1. Scoopy Doop
Inspired by frozen, colored vinegar on top of baking soda, "Scoopy Doop" was a spontaneous random concoction created out of "I wonder..." moments.
The frozen vinegar on baking soda did absolutely nothing. My littles watched it with eyes full of anticipation. It was a genius moment of delayed gratification. After a child wondered what would happen if we squirted warm water on the vinegar cubes, one thing led into another. "I wonder what would happen if we added more vinegar?" "I wonder what would happen if we added more baking soda?" Pretty soon, all of those "I wonders.." led to an amazing concoction!!
2. Wet Chalk Smashing
Rather then throw away those itty bits of sidewalk chalk. Soak them and plop them with potato mashers. Little people will know what to do!!
3. Baking Soda and Colored Vinegar
When given the freedom of time, baking soda and colored vinegar can become a fabulous messy play opportunity!
4. Set the Shaving Cream FREE!!
The first time I set out the actual bottles of shaving cream, my littles picked it up and handed it to me, telling me I dropped it. I quickly corrected them and said, "No, I set this down for you to play with" They thought they had died and gone to heaven!! THE ENTIRE CAN?! FOR THEM?!
|Shaving cream is motivating.
After lots of failed attempts and shaking shoulders and arms, this child FINALLY discovered a method that worked!
|Hmmm...been watching mom shave her legs lately?
Children NEED play to make sense of their world, to try the things they see and express themselves!!
Not messiest of mess-making play, but it's a grand one none-the-less. Simply mix flour and baby oil until you reach a consistency of moon dough. Once all the flour is saturated with oil, add liquid water color one color at a time, and mix. The colors will form sprinkles, and the different colors will NEVER mix! This is a favorite for ice cream shop play!
BONUS #6: Colorful Suds
Yep. It's that simple. Plop a bucket of water, add some cheap shampoo and watch the messy (ha..it's soap!!) fun take over! After lots of fun playing with suds, my crew added sidewalk chalk to the suds they were making on the sidewalk.
Okay, ye messy-intolerant ones....how are you doing? Was this post successful in giving you some tools in order for you to go forth and embrace messy play?
I certainly hope so, otherwise, I just wasted a good 2 hours of my life I won't get back (ha...it's always my pleasure to share my journey in this blog!!)
Take a deep breath in....read this blog several more times....and go get messy!!
Interested in having Denita speak at your next early childhood educator training? Contact her at firstname.lastname@example.org.